http://vanillaextract.blogsome.com Too complicated to explain (not that I won't try anyway) Tue, 24 Nov 2009 05:27:39 +0000 http://backend.userland.com/rss092 en  Friend of mine told me this on IM before she had to go. I had been mentioning I was turning down the only person offering me sex these days because I thought the emotional fallout a bad idea. She responded that it was good, because I needed that.  "I need to ... http://vanillaextract.blogsome.com/2009/11/24/you-shouldnt-have-sex/  I have noticed that no matter where we start, at some point she ends up with her head hitting the wall next to my bed.  Perhaps I should attach her to something to prevent that. http://vanillaextract.blogsome.com/2009/05/20/angles-of-entry/ I don’t follow A Softer World too often, but this one pretty much sums up my view on good sex.     http://vanillaextract.blogsome.com/2009/05/19/respect/  Sometimes, even if you know very well nothing will come of it, hearing someone say they’re attracted to you is delightful in and of itself. http://vanillaextract.blogsome.com/2009/05/18/wanted/   While this could be a site exploring the nature of how we define sexuality and obscenity or otherwise be profound, this site is really just a collection of very mainstream pictures of women.  Some of them are nice, though. http://vanillaextract.blogsome.com/2009/05/18/art-or-porn/ Bad Evo-Psych always drives me a little nuts.  The latest little news report to get under my skin is a piece that starts with this tidbit of radical "scientific truth":  Scientists have found that the pleasure women get from making love is directly linked to the size of their partner’s bank balance. ... http://vanillaextract.blogsome.com/2009/01/20/is-that-a-wallet-in-your-pocket-or/  I had an interesting conversation this weekend concerning jealousy. Someone I’ve met recently was discussing a past relationship, and trying to explain some of the jealousy dynamic. He admitted to being very jealous, but struggled to clarify something about his reactions to his lover’s flirting.  "The less safe you felt in ... http://vanillaextract.blogsome.com/2009/01/19/expectations-and-jealousy/ She of the couch conversation had me over last night and we did do some talking. I do think I am prone to see someone who is very up front about desires and limits in a favorable light given my history of terrible communicators.  That’s not to say I don’t carry ... http://vanillaextract.blogsome.com/2009/01/04/clarity-and-enthusiasm/  "For the longest time I had only heard of you, and thought you were kind of sketch." "Heard of me from [The Elfling]?"  "And [the Artist]." "And you’ve decided I’m not sketch?" "No, I kind of developed a crush on you since I met you instead."  "That’s sweet, but I’m a terrible person to develop ... http://vanillaextract.blogsome.com/2008/12/31/conversations-on-a-couch/  I appear to have a clever spam commenter. I don’t think I’ve ever personally encountered this before, where a comment seems entirely relevant to the post, but written by someone who just links to what seems to be a YouTube for porn. All very curious. http://vanillaextract.blogsome.com/2008/12/04/oh-the-internet/